When I moved from the Netherlands to Canada, I had this image in my head. A vision that my life would be completely different. That I would finally become unstuck in my career. That this would be my chance to shine, to do great things. Honestly, I kind of expected that everything would magically change for the better. Basically, I would wake up one day and I would know what I wanted in life and have a fulfilling career, only because I changed countries.
I’m sorry to those who were hoping, just like I did, for a fairy tale ending (or should I say fairy tale beginning?), but of course, this didn’t happen. Because a mindset isn’t something that will change out of itself. You have to put in the work, you have to do some soul searching and you have to start listening to yourself. You have to be willing to dive deep. And most importantly, you have to know that you need to do these things. So for the first 1,5 years, I kept running around in circles. And I was really surprised and frustrated as to why nothing changed. I was angry at myself and I was feeling a bit sorry for myself, but I was also annoyed with my surroundings and was blaming my circumstances. It was easy to blame others and search for the quick fix anywhere else but within me.
But now, after a long period of exploring and interviewing myself and even asking for help, I can honestly say that I know what is important to me. That I know what my values are. I’m noticing when I’m not honoring my values in a certain aspect of my life and that’s when I know that I then need to re-evaluate. I will sit down, sometimes even take pen and paper and ask myself: What am I doing? Where am I not honoring myself? What do I want? What do I want it to look like? And what are my possibilities?
I ask myself all these questions in light of my newly created vision. A vision of having a fulfilling career as a coach, where I add value to other people’s life's, where I don’t let perfection overrule, where I believe learning is better than performing, where I’m kind to the people around me and most of all a vision of being kind, loving and accepting towards myself.
So in a way, my vision became reality, but not before creating and believing it myself.
Now I’m asking you: What are you willing to do for your life’s vision?
